There’s no reason to have arguments about whether abortion is okay and when and how and all that jazz if at the end of the day we’re all willing to agree to disagree and let everybody control their own bodies and consent or deny consent to medical procedures based on their own consciences.
As long as we can respect each other’s consciences, at the end of the day we’re all on the same side. I don’t have a problem with anybody else’s personal view on abortion as long as they’re willing to let me control my own medical decisions.
These conversations only get ugly when an anti-choicer walks in, because you can’t have a respectful conversation as an equal with someone who doesn’t think you’re morally mature enough to control your own medical choices. If someone doesn’t believe that I’m qualified to make my own medical choices, then whatever they say, they don’t respect me, and why should I expect that someone who thinks so little of my ability to reason is actually paying attention to my reasoning when I present it?
But as long as we’re all willing to say, “Your choice wouldn’t be my choice and that’s okay because I will fight for your right to be the one with the final say,” then we’re all friends. That’s important to remember. There is an “agree to disagree” position. There is an “I respect your opinion and your values” position. It’s called being pro-choice.